Love is a beautiful things, and there’s nothing more amazing than feeling the bond you share with your partner get stronger.
If you’re in a happy relationship, you can keep it that way by introducing a few new things into your relationship.
Here are 6 evidence-based approaches that will help you enjoy a more fulfilling connection.
Listening is key
Listening is a great way to boost intimacy. Make a sincere effort to always listen to your partner, especially when they’re talking about something that relates to your relationship.
Listen to understand what they’re saying not just to give a response. This helps your partner feel like you value the relationship and care about them deeply.
Appreciate your partner
Think about something your partner does that makes your life easier, especially something you view as their responsibility, such as paying their share of the bills.
Thank them sincerely for it.
This might feel weird since it’s something they should do anyway, but it makes them feel good and your relationship more satisfying. So take the time to say “Thank you” and watch out for the huge smile on their face afterwards.
Schedule quiet time
In today’s world it’s incredibly hard to focus on one thing. At least once a week, turn off all electronic devices and participate in an activity you both enjoy. You could watch your favorite movie, massage each other, or play a board game.
This gives you time to enjoy each other and connect on a deeper level. If you have kids, connect after they’ve gone to bed, or find a time that works for both of you.
Do random acts of kindness often
Do things that will make your partner feel important and loved often. It can be as simple as making their favorite breakfast, creating a playlist or sending them a love note via email, or better yet – snail mail.
Research shows that these smaller ways of showing affection accumulate and have a bigger impact on couple happiness than infrequent grand gestures.
Show empathy.
Always take your partner’s feelings seriously, even when you feel like they’re irrational.
When you find it difficult to empathize, take a deep breath and remind yourself that their feelings are important.
Communicate well.
Communication is key. Good communication skills help your relationship thrive. This means, asking your partner what they need, and telling them what you need as well.
Check in with them regularly to see how they are feeling. Both of you can learn to argue in a way that doesn’t hurt your relationship.